KIRBY DESMARAIS And Baby G makes three.

* BONUS VIDEO * Kirby and family in their new home.

AGE   26

HOMETOWN / WHERE DO YOU LIVE NOW?   Then, the beautiful mountains of Woodstock NY. Now, the beautiful concrete jungle of Brooklyn NY. As soon as I hit the lottery I will be buying a little A-frame barn upstate and converting it to a home with my own two hands, to split my time between the country & city. Some day…

@TWITTER   @Kirbyamour

ON THE WEB   KirbyAmour.com & BabyGblog.com

NUMBER OF CHILDREN   One very active 2 year old.

FAVORITE CHILDREN’S BOOK   Well, being my child is a ball of energy she hasn’t really “taken” to any books just yet. Being I’m a bookworm I have no doubt she eventually will get the reading bug, but I’m not trying to force it. We read books at least once a day but honestly I only get half way through each one before she’s off doing something else.

For her upcoming B-Day I will be giving her my personal fave from when I was a child, “Grandfather Twilight”. I loved this book SO much in kindergarten my teacher actually gave it to me. I can’t wait to show it’s magical photos to Georgiah.

DAY JOB   I run the record label Everything Independent and help out with various music conferences across the US. While I’m trying to cut back on it for 2012, this job often has me travelling with G for extended periods of time (like this coming March).

RELATIONSHIP STATUS   IT’S COMPLICATED – yet simple to us.

HOW DO YOU COMBINE WORK AND FAMILY?

This is a tough, ever-evolving situation for us.

I run my business from home now. Early on, right after G was born, I had an office in DUMBO Brooklyn and a fulltime nanny. But between the office rent and the nanny’s salary we were spending a small fortune to essentially be away from our kid. I dumped the office, let the nanny go (mostly because of money issues) and took over running my business and being a fulltime mom.

Flash forward five months and I’m in a full-on meltdown because I learn the hard way that, “I can’t do it all”. Now G goes to “school” twice a week and while it’s still near impossible to balance it all I’m getting by. One day my load will lighten — I just need to make it to that point!

HOW HAS PARENTING CHANGED YOU AS AN INDIVIDUAL?

While I’m still my crazy self….I really think it has helped me focus. I had G young on purpose. I don’t have much family so I wanted to start my family young to have as many years as possible to enjoy the love. I’m not going to lie — at 26 I can’t wait to be a grandma. Honestly, if I didn’t work for myself and this city wasn’t so hard I would most likely have had a bunch of kids. But, I think I’m going to adopt older children once G is older. Give a few siblings a home.

Then when I’m older and they’re all grown up I’ll be surrounded by the big family I’ve always dreamed of.

HOW HAS PARENTING AFFECTED YOUR RELATIONSHIP?

I always knew Mark would be the father of my babies. He has grown a lot from being a dad. I see him being a more successful and fulfilled person which makes our relationship much lighter, it has a purpose.

WHAT ARE YOUR STRENGTHS AS A PARENT AND WHAT ARE YOUR WEAKNESSES?

Strength: my ability to step back and try to see my faults (not many people do this, I’ve found). Also, my ability to ask for help when I need it with Georgiah.

Even though some people might see this as a fault (and I’m not saying it’s easy), I would call my bad childhood and my ability to overcome it — through my new Daughter/Mother relationship with G — a strength. I’m finding the love and relationship I’ve always longed for even, if I’m on the other side of the table. (Which make me appreciate it SO much.)

Weaknesses: my habit of spreading myself WAY too thin and being stressed out as a result. I can lose my temper, and all too often it will be at Mark, even if it has nothing to do with him.

My OCD nature is a fault, and sometimes a weakness, a product of my past struggles. Some days I have to take certain “paths” or order things/actions “certain ways”, which only make sense to me, but as my environment becomes less chaotic it’s not so obvious. Mark likes to say my brain just works differently than others which is why I feel my peculiarities may not always be faults — it makes me who I am after all. But sometimes it can get really frustrating for the people around me who don’t understand.

WHAT ARE YOUR PARTNER’S STRENGTHS AND WEAKNESSES?

Mark’s new found strength is the recent path to self discovery he’s embarked on. It’s helping him be more present for his daughter and making him a very enjoyable person to be around. I’m proud and impressed by his recent work in this area.

His weaknesses is the habit of getting overwhelmed and close sighted. He’s not the best planner, self starter, or time manager which is the complete opposite of my OCD nature, and creates clashes.

WHO ELSE PROVIDES CHILDCARE FOR YOUR CHILDREN?

G goes to a “school” which is really daycare with a lesson program twice a week. I’m hoping eventually to make this into three days a week so I have a nice amount of time to work but still have her home every other day. That will come when we can afford it.

WHAT IS YOUR WORST PARENTING MOMENT?

I have to say my worst moments are when I feel completely clueless or when I feel like I’m not “doing it right” or not “doing enough”.

I sometimes get overwhelmed because I did not have a good childhood so it’s double the work. Firstly learning what “good parenting” is, because I never had the example, and second learning how to parent MY child’s needs well because each kid has their own needs.

There’s so many of these moments I can’t choose one.

WHAT IS YOUR BEST PARENTING MOMENT?

I want to say something like, “When she started saying please and thank you”, or when she took her first steps.

But honestly my best parenting moments are the times I catch myself from losing my temper, and when I can talk G out of a fit, and the like. After all, a two year-old is a ball of emotion.

I’m proud when I can stop and realize this, and help her deal with her feelings, while learning new lessons.